“Tom, Dick & Happily Ever After” is a non-fiction dating guide to inspire women in their late teens to late thirties, who are struggling with their own identity and are finding themselves unsuccessful in the dating world, to be true to themselves and show them how to transform their dating game.
It serves as a “how to” book that will appeal to young women who are looking for an entertaining read and extra tips for dating men. However, it is particularly aimed at women who are disillusioned with dating and perhaps themselves too. It offers guidance in terms of how to play an effective dating game, preserving your self-respect and dignity, and how to end up dating the right guy for you. It aims to dispel dating myths and bring dating back to basics for those who don’t understand what they are doing wrong.
It is written in a light-hearted, down to earth tone that makes it easily accessible for its readers yet has many underlying positive messages for women concerning how we view ourselves, societal pressures to look a certain away and the influence of other people on our self-esteem. The dominant message is about each person pursuing their own dream, having their own “thing” going on, being confident in themselves and content with their own life, before worrying about finding a suitable partner.
The book advises readers to live their own life so that one’s own fulfilment and happiness does not depend on someone else. It is a guide to creating the best version of yourself so that you can be a great partner when the right person, who treats you with respect, comes along. The message is that if you are a happy, confident person who doesn’t need reassurance from another person to feel adequate then you will only let a man into your life who adds value; hence avoiding feeling miserable alone and obsessing over dating or letting the wrong guy into your life who thinks you are an easy catch.
Contents of the Book
The content of the book includes the fundamentals of the dating game, how to behave at each stage of dating and how to “play the game”. It covers the basics of attracting the opposite sex, focussing on self-belief, being independent, societal pressures on women and finding a balanced way of living in terms of healthy eating and exercise. It discusses the differences between men and women and different types of men. It offers advice on how to flirt and alter your behaviour if you are not getting asked out. It debates when to have sex with someone new and the importance of sex in a relationship. It covers online dating, including creating a profile and navigating different dating apps. It further focusses on how other girls can greatly affect “your game”, how you behave and how you judge the guy you’re dating, and also how the example your parents have set you and the confidence they (do or don’t) give you will affect your interactions with the opposite sex. It contains century old advice to give to younger girls; with eight pearls of wisdom that my sister and I have been lucky enough receive from our own mother. Finally, there are some summing up thoughts on how to choose when to break the rules once you feel you have mastered the fundamentals of the game and are playing like a pro.